Love is one of the most powerful and appreciated emotions among humans. It brings us many benefits, such as understanding and happiness. It does not matter whether we’re talking about romantic or platonic love; it always makes us feel secure and protected.
However, sometimes it happens that love dies. Even if our beloved person can be the guiltiest of all, we must understand that love dies for many reasons, some of which are inevitable. So you shouldn’t blame yourself if you’ve experienced those stages of a dying marriage.
But learning to recognize the signs your marriage is turning into a divorce will help you avoid this confusion and give you a head start on your future needs.
We’ve observed five stages every couple goes through when they are divorcing. While each couple may not experience each stage in direct sequence or within one year of the divorce, it appears that couples seem to follow a general order. And there are times when some couples loop back around to revisit an earlier stage. Let’s have a look at them.
Signs of a Dying Marriage
A marriage is a delicate balance between two people. While it can be hard to tell if you are in a dying marriage, some signs can give you insight into whether your marriage is on the brink. If you ask these questions, it may be time to consider getting out of the relationship.
1. You’re Always Fighting
Getting married is supposed to be fun, right? Well, not always. Sometimes, it’s just plain old exhausting. It can wear on a relationship when you constantly argue with your spouse over everything from finances to household chores.
You might not realize it yet, but if you’re always fighting with your spouse and feel like they don’t understand what’s going through your head at any given time, then maybe it’s time to re-evaluate things.
2. You Have Stopped Having Sex with Each Other
Sex isn’t just about physical pleasure; it’s also about connecting with someone on a deep level. When that connection disappears from your marriage, sex stops being fun and exciting — especially if you don’t know how to fix it.
A lack of intimacy can lead to problems in other areas of your life, too, including poor communication skills and poor health habits (both mental and physical).
3. You Are Having Trouble Communicating with Your Partner
Communication is one of the keys to any successful relationship. When you and your spouse have problems communicating, it can signify that your marriage is on its way out. If there is little or no communication between you and your spouse, this could also indicate other issues in your relationship.
4. You Have Stopped Trying to Please Each Other
If you have stopped trying to please each other, then this could be another sign that your marriage is dying. When you feel no hope for your marriage, you tend to give up on pleasing each other. Instead of trying to make them happy, you begin focusing on yourself and what makes you feel good instead of what makes them feel good.
5. You Don’t Want to Spend Time Together Anymore
If there is no longer an interest in spending time together, this could be another sign that your marriage is dying. Suppose one partner suddenly loses interest in spending time with the other. In that case, this may indicate that something else is going on in the relationship besides not getting along anymore or having different interests.
6. You Stop Talking About Important Issues in Your Life
It can be difficult for couples to talk about all of the important things in their lives — careers, finances, children, and more — but if they don’t talk about them together, then each partner will go through these events alone and without support from their spouse.
This leaves each partner feeling unimportant and neglected by their partner — two factors that will lead to unhappiness within the marriage and eventually lead one or both spouses to seek outside relationships for companionship and support.
7. You Don’t Feel Like Yourself Anymore
Many people think love is the same feeling you get when you start dating someone — butterflies in your stomach and an inexplicable desire to spend every waking moment together. But love changes over time.
It deepens and grows and evolves into something new … or it doesn’t. If your relationship has changed from “this is the best thing ever” to “Why am I even doing this?” it might be time for a reality check.
8. Your Partner Makes You Feel Bad About Yourself
If they’re constantly pointing out your flaws or putting down what you do (or don’t do), this is an early sign that things aren’t going well between you. A healthy relationship should make both partners feel good about themselves; if one person feels like crap all the time because their partner constantly puts them down, then it’s time to re-evaluate things before they get worse!
9. Feelings of Resentment Toward Each Other Are More Common
When couples start to resent one another, it’s a clear sign that something has changed in their relationship. Resentment can take many forms, such as feeling like your spouse doesn’t do enough around the house or feeling like they don’t care about what you’re going through at work.
When these feelings are left unchecked, they can turn into outright hostility or even hatred for each other over time.
10. Your Partner Is Cheating on You
Infidelity is a sign that your marriage is dying. It’s not the only sign. Infidelity is just one of many signs that a relationship has ended. It’s also possible to cheat on someone and still be in love with them. But infidelity is often a sign that something has gone wrong in the relationship.
Infidelity isn’t just about sex; it’s about intimacy. We all need intimacy, and we find it in different ways: physical touch, emotional connection, intellectual connection, and spiritual connection. Infidelity happens when someone starts looking for intimacy outside of their primary relationship.
A Relationship That’s Not Functioning Properly
We all come into our marriages with a certain idealism, but as the days, months, and years progress, many of us take each other for granted. The result can be a marriage that quickly goes off the rails. If you spend more time arguing with your spouse than enjoying your time together, consider these ten signs that you’re in a relationship that should be reconsidered.
Some of them may sound similar to problems you’ve had before. But if there’s even one on this list that is new to you, it may be time to rethink your relationship. Dying marriages don’t happen overnight. They usually develop over time as one or both partners slowly grow apart from their partner and lose interest in the relationship.
When this happens, many people start looking for ways out of their marriage without understanding what’s causing their unhappiness or what they could do to save their marriage from ending prematurely.
If you’re worried about your marriage, talk to your partner about what’s bothering you. Try to be honest about what’s going on and how they make you feel when they do or say certain things. You may also want to see a counselor together to help solve problems in your relationship.