Have you ever felt like you couldn’t do anything right because you’re better at throwing things out than doing anything else or because you feel like there’s something wrong with the way you do things? That’s ok; a lot of people feel that way.
Most people have experienced a time when they felt they couldn’t do anything right. Whether this happens because of self-doubt and negative thoughts, or an ever-changing world around you, no one is immune to a period of doubt in their abilities as a professional.
Let’s talk about what you can do when you feel like you’re doing everything wrong. But before that, let’s try to understand the reasons that could cause such feelings.
Why Do You Feel Like You Can’t Do Anything Right?
1. Comparing Yourself
When we compare ourselves to others, we see them as better than us or worse than us. We see their successes and forget about their failures — and vice versa. But this isn’t fair to either person involved; it makes both people feel bad about themselves!
Further, you might be worrying about what other people think of you. When we worry about what other people think of us, we imagine that everyone is judging us all the time, even when it isn’t true! People aren’t always judging us — they have their problems to deal with too!
You have low self-esteem. Low self-esteem can make you feel like nothing you do is good enough or that others are better than you in every way. This leads to not trying as hard as possible at something because you don’t believe that it will matter anyway.
Perfectionism is a psychological trait that makes you feel like you need to be perfect in everything you do. If you think that everything has to be perfect, then there’s no way that you will ever feel good about yourself or your life. You will always find something wrong with what you do, so it becomes impossible to enjoy anything.
This thinking leads to stress and anxiety because nothing is ever good enough for perfectionists. They see the world in black and white terms; everything has to be perfect, or else it’s horrible!
You’re overwhelmed with stress. When you’re stressed out, your mind becomes clouded with negative thoughts that seem to magnify everything wrong in your life. It’s important to recognize when you’re stressed to learn how to manage it better or seek help if necessary.
You’re not getting enough sleep. Sleep deprivation can harm your mood, making you feel more irritable and depressed. When this happens, it’s easy to feel like everything is going wrong.
What to Do When You Feel Like You Can’t Do Anything Right?
When you feel like you can’t do anything right, it can be hard to think clearly. You might have a sense of panic and anxiety. You might feel like everything is going wrong, and you don’t know what to do.
If you’re feeling this way, it may be time to step back and look at the situation. The first step to getting out of this rut is to realize that there is no such thing as failure. There are only learning experiences.
The next step is to realize that you are not alone. Everyone has gone through this at some point in their life, and they will continue to do so. Here are a few tips on how to overcome your feelings of inadequacy:
1) Start small.
Don’t look at the big picture right away; instead, start with something small and easy that gives you confidence and makes you feel good about yourself.
If you feel like your work isn’t good enough, try doing something else that doesn’t require any thought or planning — something like cleaning up around the house or helping someone out with something simple. The point is to get yourself back into the swing of things and get your confidence back up again!
2) Take time for yourself.
Make sure that there’s something in your life that makes you happy and relieves your feelings of stress or sadness. Take care of yourself by doing things that bring joy into your life. It could be as simple as reading a book, watching a movie, or spending time with friends. It could also be more active, like going for a walk outside, exercising at home, or joining an exercise class at the gym. Whatever brings you joy should make up part of your self-care routine!
3) Stop comparing yourself to others.
We all do this, but constantly comparing ourselves to others is a waste of time and energy — it doesn’t make us feel better about ourselves, and it makes us feel worse when we don’t measure up in someone else’s eyes.
It also fuels jealousy and resentment when we see what others have that we want or think we deserve but don’t have yet (e.g., their physical beauty or success). Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your growth by setting goals for yourself based on your values and desires rather than someone else’s expectations of who you should be.”
4) Recognize that perfectionism is an obstacle to success.
Perfectionists spend a lot of time stressing out over things that don’t matter. They feel like they have to be perfect at everything, which is impossible. The result? They never feel good enough and often procrastinate because they don’t think anything they produce will be good.
Instead of always trying to be flawless, focus on doing your best and then move on with confidence and trust in your abilities. If something doesn’t turn out exactly as planned or hoped for (and this will happen), learn from it and keep moving forward without beating yourself up over it.
5) Write down your accomplishments (even if they seem small).
Look back through old photos, journals, or emails to remind yourself of the good things in life–those are your actual accomplishments!
Try positive affirmations. Statements like “I am smart and capable” can remind you that what other people say doesn’t define you as a person. If you have trouble believing these statements, write them down on sticky notes and put them in places where they will remind you of your strengths. Try writing down something positive about yourself every day in a journal or blog.
6) Remind yourself that everyone has bad days; it’s not just about you.
It could be something going on at home or school (maybe even something good) contributing to how you feel right now–focus on those positive things instead of dwelling on yourself!
If you feel like you aren’t good at anything, take a step back and think about it. You probably have some strength, even if you don’t believe you. There’s something you’re good at; you need to stop and try to explore options. With some help and insight, you can find something that fits your interests and draws on your strengths while challenging you!
- Baumeister, R. F., Campbell, J. D., Krueger, J. I., & Vohs, K. D. (2003). Does High Self-Esteem Cause Better Performance, Interpersonal Success, Happiness, or Healthier Lifestyles? Psychological Science in the Public Interest, 4(1), 1–44. https://doi.org/10.1111/1529-1006.01431